When grief strikes, everyone says time is a great healer. Well I now know through the loss of my beautiful daughter, that time is no great healer for anything.
My pain for your loss Dumo is just as great as it was that Tuesday morning nearly 3years ago. As I approach the 3rd anniversary, my tears are still as hot and my heart still breaks as it did that morning. I have suffered such great loss, and have been told time and again that it gets easier with time. Not for me, each day I wake up and wonder what really went wrong. What wrong did I commit to deserve such punishment. My life has been meaningless since that October day, and continues to make no sense at all. Everything that I seem to do hold no meaning whatsover cause you are not here anymore my little one. As i approach yet another year without you I am reminded so vividly of the pain of losing you (not that I dont carry it around with me every day). My pain is great, my grief inconsolable.
I love you Dumo and will always love you my baby. Nothing on this earth will ever come near the love I hold for my little one.
Rest in Peace and know that mummy still holds you in high esteem!
14th anniversary 😥 / Sindi Mhlanga (Mum)
Dumo, yet another anniversary of your passing, the pain/hurt is much the same, if not worse. Time counts for nothing, losing you changed a lot in me. I ask myself a lot of what ifs..... what might have been questions ...😥😪. It still hurts knowing I only had you for a very short while, we didn’t get time to do much of mother/daughter stuff. Wish you had stayed a bit longer my love. Will forever love you, Dumo xx Close
19th birthday 🎈🎈🎈🎉🎉 / Sindi Mhlanga (Mother)
Giving birth to you was the most amazing thing, I held you, I breathed you in, your smell, your baby soft skin. Your birth awakened in me an intense feeling of love from my inner core. I cried when you passed away, I still cry today. Although I loved you dearly,
I couldn't make you stay. Your beautiful heart stopped beating. Though I know you are safe in heaven , I love and miss you everyday.... a little more today.
Happy heavenly birthday my angel xxx Close
Unconditional Love / Nonsikelelo Sibanda (Sister)Read >>
Unconditional Love / Nonsikelelo Sibanda (Sister)
Days,Months and Years have passed but I just cant forget your face..i still remember the last time i saw you was August 2004..you had a place in my heart,you still have it and you will always have it...I will forever miss you..I hope you are looking out for us there in heaven as you are now our guardian ANGEL...#I Love you Madawu Close
Gone 8 years today / Sindi (mum)
This day is an acute reminder to me and those that loved you Dumo of the short time you spent with us here. You will always be remembered with great love and many tears. But to only feel pain and sorrow would not be fair to you Dumo. Your life meant so much more to us, more than words could say. You were here so briefly, I wonder if you knew all the ways you have touched my world and my heart and everyone who knew you since the day God called you home. Now my baby girl, you are an angel with heavenly Father above, I see not only what I have lost but my capacity of love. There will always be a big void in my life and a huge hole in my heart that will never heal. My soul will grieve forever.
Will I forget or stop loving you? No! Not now...... not ever. As this very sad day is upon me yet again, oh, how my heart still hurts. But even as I mourn your loss, I will always celebrate your birth. It was the happiest day of my life. The moment that you died my heart was torn in two one side filled with heartache, the other died with you. I often lie awake at night when the world is fast asleep, remembering you my baby with hot tears upon my cheeks. Remembering you is easy I do it everyday,but missing you is heartache that never goes away. I hold you tightly within my heart and there you will remain.
Will always love you Madawu xxx Close
Silent Grief / Sindi Mhlanga (Mummy)
June 12 , 2012
There are so many losses that come into our lives, but
nothing compares to the loss of a child. This type of loss
is never supposed to happen. It crosses the boundary of
falling within the norm. There is nothing right or good or
purposeful about this loss. And yet we know that every
day children die. And, this tormenting pain suddenly
becomes so very real when it is our child. At that moment
of hearing those words, "I'm sorry", a piece of our heart
leaves us and never, ever returns. We are broken.
How do we pick up the pieces to life and continue to live
following the loss of our child? This has been the age-old
lament of parents from the beginning of time. In my
experience, we don't ever really put back our lives as they
were "before" our loss. That is impossible to do. When
our child died, a part of us died, too.
Our hope is not in this world, but our hope is in that which
is to come. Our hope is in heaven. Our hope is in God. Our
hope is in our Heavenly Father who cares for every detail
of our lives to the point of even knowing how many hairs we
have on our head. Without this hope, we are doomed to a life
Every day, if we breathe in the word of God the same way
we breathe in the air that sustains us, our souls will be
sustained. Slowly and surely life will return to our broken
spirit, and we will gain new meaning from this crushing wave
of grief brought about by the loss of our child.
One day, one hour, one moment, one verse from God's holy word.
That's how we do it. We breathe in His word, and while doing so
we breathe in new life and new hope. -Clara Hinton
"When God dwells within me, I will gain new hope!" -- Clara Hinton
"Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer." Romans 12:12 Close
Hope/ Sindi Mum (Mummy)
Every day brings its share of sunshine as well as its
share of troubles and pain. Sometimes, the pain we
experience is beyond what we ever imagined possible,
and it is during those times that we need to remember
all those who have walked before us and traveled similar
journeys and have made it!
When tragedy hits, how can we once again restore joy
back into our lives? That's a question that every person
asks at some point in his or her life. The answer is often
more clear than we think, but the journey to receiving this
joy can often be long and filled with all kinds of setbacks
Joy in its purest form comes from the simple and natural
things of life. Sunbeams streaming across and open meadow.
Raindrops pitter-pattering on the rooftop. A beautiful rainbow
following a springtime shower. Birds chirping their early
morning songs of thanksgiving. A butterfly flitting across
the petals of summery flowers. The gentle breeze sweeping
across the ocean and ever so gently blowing through your hair.
Joy cannot be bought with money. Joy is not found on a shelf
or in a jar. Joy is a "presence" - a state of being that can only
be found when we have come to a place of peace.
If you are struggling to find joy in your life, take heart. Joy
is all around you. Look at all of the little blessings of life that
are found in nature - God's beautiful creation - and allow your
heart to slowly, steadily be refilled once again with that peaceful,
quiet, sustaining joy. -Clara Hinton
"To allow myself to find new joy is to give myself the gift of
peace and hope." --Clara Hinton
"You will go out in joy and be led forth in peace; the mountains will
burst into song before you, and all the trees of the field will clap their
hands." --Isaiah 55:12 Close
message to Dumo's mum, l hope this comforts you / Innocencia Sibanda Read >>
message to Dumo's mum, l hope this comforts you / Innocencia Sibanda
Momma please don't cry.
Cause I'm in the arms of Jesus, and he sings me lullabies.
please try not to question God, don't think he is unkind.
Don't think he sent me to you and then changed his mind.
You see I'm a special child, I am needed up above.
I'm the special gift you gave Him, a product of your love.
I'll always be there with you, so watch the sky at night.
Look for the brightest star and know that's my halo's brilliant light.
You'll see me in the morning frost that mists your window pane.
That's me in the summer showers, I'll be dancing in the rain.
When you feel a gentle breeze from a gentle wind that blows.
Know that it's me planting a kiss upon your nose.
When you see a child playing and your heart feels a tug,
Don't be sad mommy, that's just me giving your heart a hug.
Momma please don't cry.
I'm in the arms of Jesus and he sings me lullabies!" Close
Condolonces/ Nozinhle B. Sibanda (nil)
am so hurtful about this thing i have been following this story long back . its paining me am jus being touched by this story am also a Sibanda. may your soul rest in peace girl, God be with yu angel. at least the culprit had been caught. Lala ngokuthula Dawu iNkosi ize ibe lawe. you were so young & innocent Close
Miss/ Pamela Mhlanga (Aunt)
Justice at last. Lala ngokuthula masibanda. Always in our thoughts, sadly missed Close
Your Beautiful Angel. / Lucy Myers (Parent of schoolfriend. )Read >>
Your Beautiful Angel. / Lucy Myers (Parent of schoolfriend. )
Donald & Sindi, you have been so brave and dignified, finally you have justice for little Dumol, we have shed a few tears for you this evening. Ellie still talks about Dumol and misses her even though it's been 7 years. I walk past her memorial everyday at school, it still looks beautiful, and I explained to my 4 year old son why it is there, tomorrow i will place some flowers there for Dumol. Sleep tight precious angel.xx Close
uMnumzana./ NTOKOZO MLILO
Mei Dumo's soul rest in peacethe mighty lord give Sindi and family the strength to go on. In his word the lord has told us that there is a time for everything a time to love a time to cry a time to mourn and a time to celebrate. However he goes further to say that those who have faith in him and lived in his ways shall enjoy eternity with him. I know you have faith Sindi and out of this faith may the mighty lord give you hope and strength . Mei the Mhlanga Sibanda families friends and relatives take solace in that in the second coming of our lord we will meet Dumo again. Mei the dear loving lord be with you always my sister. Close
Time for Justice, / Ryton Dzimiri (Same God )Read >>
Time for Justice, / Ryton Dzimiri (Same God )
God had a plan that in year 2011 justice would be done for Dumo. Amen Close
Yet another year beginnings without you my little angel. Again I find myself still unable to believe that you were taken away from us in such a horrible manner. Dumo I miss you my angel I look at the children (teenagers) your age all around me and cant help wonder what a beauty you would have been now. All I have is the precious memories that help me carry on from one day to the next. I will never understand why God let this happen but I have accepted my fate. All I know is that you surely did not belong to this evil world and God saw that and spared you the pain horror and evil that it holds. I love you dumo and miss you always
Dumo not a day passes by without me acutely feeling the pain of losing you. It is such a shame that my world crashed and stopped that day. I can not believe that 6 years on I still feel the same pain acutely more so. Your loss truly devastated me.
Yet another day without you, another tear falls silently unnoticed. I have grown accustomed to an aching heart and a false smile. I will never grow accustomed to life without my precious daughter.
Grief has taught me that I can not bypass the pain of grieving but I can only take one day at a time until hope and joy returns. Love you Dumo and always will.
'Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil; for You are with me...... Psalms 23:4
My life lost its meaning that morning of the 26th of October 2004. Today my heart bears grief, pain, hurt and sorrow that will never lift. The kind of pain no parent should have to face. In you Dumo, I lost the most beautiful and precious being that God had ever granted me. I will never get over your grief my baby, nothing will ever ease the pain, each day that passes I am acutely reminded of my loss. I picture your smile so full of life and just long to touch you, hold you, and tell you just how much I love you my little one. I pray that God gives me strength to accept that it had to be us your parents that had to lose our precious little girl, it had to be us that carried this kind of grief, and it had to be us that accepted that we couldnt have you back. My heart still breaks and my grief is still so so raw.